Does anyone else think that it is terribly insensitive for people to bring babies to an RE's office? Yesterday for my monitoring appointment there were two babies and one toddler. Seriously!?!?! If you have been through this battle and know how hard it is to see other peoples babies, why the hell would you do that? This morning only one, but still! Find a f*#@ing babysitter!!!
Okay rant over.
That is extremely insensitive! My RE doesn't allow children in the office, and in my welcome packet there was a very politely written note explaining why. I should give you a copy of it to hand out to people like this!
ReplyDeleteI was JUST commenting on that today to my husband. A woman had brought her small toddler to her appt. It would be different if it were just an OB/GYN, but to an RE's office? Come on...
ReplyDeleteI find it pretty insensitive too :(
ReplyDeleteYeah, that would tick me off. I understand it's difficult to find childcare at times, but seriously. Have some tact.
ReplyDeleteSeriously! Children are usually not supposed to be brought to a regular ob/gyn's office, much less an RE's office!! Perhaps this would be a good time for the bouncy ball...
ReplyDeleteAgreeeeeeeee!!! Agreeeeeeee!!
ReplyDeleteYup, it's pretty insensitive. It's happened to me twice, and I just don't get how women who have *been there* wouldn't remember how hurtful it is!! Sorry that happened =(
ReplyDeleteSo I'm not sure if I should jump in here, but I feel the need to share the other perspective. I've thought about this exact question from the other side a lot lately as I recently made an appointment with our RE to talk about trying for a sibling for Bean. I would never want to cause anyone any discomfort or heartache, but I honestly have nobody that I could leave Bean with as often as I would need to so that I could go through this process again. As much as you hope for people who have been through the process to be thoughtful to your situation, I hope for people who are going through the process to be thoughtful to mine. We're all in the same boat whether we're trying to have number one, two, three, or more. I'm not trying to discredit how hard it is to be in that situation (I was in it myself our first time around), but just let you know that sometimes there isn't a choice and that at least for me, the feelings of those around me are very much heavy on my mind. Hopefully the women in your office are thinking through their decision that much as well.
ReplyDeleteI totally see your side. I can understand how hard that would be. This particular situation was so strange though! These were tiny babies! Like 2 or 3 months old. And none of them were with just the mom. They were either with both parents or with a friend or other family member. The spouse or friend stayed in the waiting room so the babies were there the whole time. I felt that the least they could do is stay out in the larger waiting room that is just outside of the inner waiting room (which is too tiny for all the patients plus a guy, a middle school age kid, a stroller and a baby). I feel like even as the spouse of a woman in this position, he should have a bit more tact than that.
ReplyDeleteThat is a really strange situation. If I had the choice, I wouldn't bring Bean myself. Not only for the other people, but also for her. The last thing I want is one of her first memories to be of me in the stirrups! I hope those women figure out how to leave the entourage at home next time.
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