Sunday, August 21, 2011

My Grandma & Grandpa

I started this post nearly two weeks ago. Since then I am a bit less worried about my Grandma and more worried about my hubby's Grandpa. We have known for a couple of weeks that his Grandpa was in the hospital. We just found out today that he is now in ICU. He has been in such bad shape that they had to restart his heart. In the past few hours things have gotten a bit better. They are now talking weeks or months as long as there is no brain damage from his time before his heart was restarted. 

My poor hubby doesn't know how to handle this. He still has all four of his grandparents. The only other time that I have seen my hubby cry is when we lost our pup Socrates. I wish I could do something to help him. Please think happy thoughts or pray or whatever it is that you do. I really think hubby needs a chance to go see his Grandpa at least one more time. I hope he gets one.

And not back to my original blog...

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It sucks to be one of the youngest children of the youngest child. My grandma is 94. My dad was her youngest. We lost my grandpa years ago and it seems more and more like we will lose grandma soon. I am terrified. Losing grandma will be so much worse than any of the others. She is my last grandparent. It will be like losing them all again. I am so sad that none of my kids will get to know their great grandparents. I know that a lot of people do not, but my grandparents are so very different than anyone else I know. I really want my grandma to at least get to see my baby. We are waiting to tell her about the baby until after we hear a heartbeat since she will be so excited that she will tell everyone. We originally planned to wait until the end of the first trimester, but I am too worried. I want her to at least know about the baby in case she doesn't make it that long. Her health has been failing so much lately. She doesn't seem to want to go on.

Both of my grandparents are adorable. Grandpa looked just like the guy in the American Gothic painting, only happier. He wore blue & white striped overalls everyday except Sundays. Grandma made herself  homemade dresses out of cute calico prints with pretty ricrack trim.

I grew up living next door to grandma & grandpa. I got off the school bus everyday at their house. Grandma would have some sort of tasty food ready for me. She made homemade bread every other week or so along with homemade cinnamon rolls and super tasty buttery rolls. Some times it would be crumb cake (coffee cake with a cinnamon crumble on top). After a snack, grandpa and I would go out and feed the cows. Did I mention I grew up on a farm? It was a GREAT way to grow up!!

Both of my grandparents would have been perfectly happy living in the 1800s. They both had that "work til its done" type of work ethic although grandma never had a job outside of the home. Instead she ran the house and sewed (a quilt for each major event, i.e. high school graduation, college graduation, marriage & first baby, for all 12 of her grand kids!)

Grandma is now in a nursing home, newly as of this week. We are hoping that being around more people will be good for her. She knows several of the ladies there from a long time ago. Right now she is alternating between good and bad days. Dad is going to call me this week when he goes to visit so I can talk to her. They haven't had a chance to install a phone line yet.

Now I have a few pictures to show you all...

This is me & Grandma on her 90th bday 4 years ago.

 Me & Grandpa when I was little eating some of Grandma's tasty food.

Me in a homemade dress that Grandma made for me. She had one that was just like it.

5 comments:

  1. Sending prayers for your husbands Grandpa!

    I totally understand how you feel about yours. While I'm the oldest child of my grandma's youngest, she's 85, and doesn't have much time left. I want a 4 generations picture with my child, and I want my Grammy to get to meet her great-grandchild. I hope your Grandma gets to hold your child, that will be so special.

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  2. Aww...this post made me cry all over again. Those pictures of you and your Grandma are precious. She is an amazing lady! I would have liked to have gotten to know her. I really hope it works out well for her being in the nursing home. And as far as Grandpa goes, this totally sucks! I am really really really hoping he pulls through. I am glad he and ur hubby and lil bro got to go jeeping before all of this hit. I know those are amazing memories they all have. We're definitely not ready to say good-bye to him yet!

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  3. So sorry to hear about your grandma and hubby's grandpa. It can be so difficult to lose family that is so important in your life. When my mom passed 5 years ago, I hadn't gotten pregnant yet but soon after I did and I named her after my mom. I miss her so much every day. Be grateful that your grandma lived a full life, that in itself is a true gift. Congrats on your BFP! (ICLW #52)

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  4. My dad is 6 of 7, but he had kids last. His mom died just days before I was born, and I barely remember his dad, who died when I was 6. I think it's wonderful that you've had so much time with her, and I hope she does get to meet your children.

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  5. Hi from ICLW. I was such a grandma's girl...she died in January 07, and believe it or not, she adopted all 3 of her kids (weird for the 1940s!) I think about how I could be talking to her about my infertility a lot. I also sometimes write her letters, put them in envelopes, and send them (with stamps!) to Grandma, Heaven, because it feels really good. LOL. I'm sure the post office expects the card inside to be from a kid and not a 31 year old woman! Praying for your family.

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